How many of us look for what we call "true" connections? This could be person to person or person to animal connections. It can be scary to reach out and look for connections and even down right paralyzing for some while others thrive on being a social butterfly. I will admit that shaking hands and starting conversation with new people is not comfortable for me. I actually find it mentally exhausting, my husband loves it and can walk into a room full of people he does not know and leave with a group of new friends. That is a true talent... or is it?
I have been working with horses for over 30 years and have learned that if I do not truly connect with a horse in an authentic way, they will not trust me or want to be with me. In fact, they will push me around and call my bluff when I try to assert myself. Much like mingling in a crowd, who wants to hang out with the insecure person that hides behind sunglasses? If you truly want to connect with someone you need to come forward with confidence and authenticity ( Check out my previous blog about being authentic). People and animals will call your bluff if you enter into a relationship without being your true self. True connections are rooted deep in being authentic in all areas of your life.
Here is some homework for you to try on yourself. The next conversation you have, work on eye contact, keep your mind quiet, be present, offer more of yourself in the conversation and respond in a genuine way to what you hear. After you try this, ask yourself if you saw anything different in yourself or the person you are talking to. Of course, I would love to have you out to the farm and we can work next to our horses. They never lie and push you to be your best in an authentic state.
Resist judging yourself and others, we are all growing and learning.
See you at the farm and remember to laugh often. Life is way too short to be so serious :)
Hey there horse enthusiasts! I am Jenny Alphin, A Therapeutic Recreation Specialist and Certified Equine Guided Educator. I am located in the stunning Sonoma Valley surrounded by views as far as the eye can see.